On Stepping Back and Taking Measure

On Stepping Back and Taking Measure

**** Social media has become a powder keg of sorts over the last few months. We have been given immediate and easy access to others’ lives, to their opinions, to news stories; truth, or otherwise. We see hate and fear mongering, conspiracy theories, judgment, and all manner of foolishness touted as absolute truth. It has given us the platform to push back immediately against those we don’t agree with, with no thought to the consequences of our actions. It’s easy to be careless with our words, and with others’ feelings when we can…continue reading →
44 Years To Present

44 Years To Present

  This is a post from the archives. It is, unfortunately, still relevant, especially in light of the incidents at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville this weekend and has been edited to reflect that. **** **** “I’m living in a world where my white husband was pulled over just a few days ago by a cop and they joked and bantered. He was sent on his way with a warning and a small ticket. I’m sitting in the reality that the same cannot be said for my brown boys who could do…continue reading →
Remembering…An Image Not Yet Finished

Remembering…An Image Not Yet Finished

Today is our 36th Wedding Anniversary. This is a post I wrote 4 years ago, and while true then, it is more so in different ways today. For everyone doing the difficult things, for those feeling like none of it matters anymore, remember that love is a not the stuff of fairytales, but of gritty, hard fought choices we make daily. Remember especially that Love never fails. **** It’s been a stormy, rainy day here but the sun is finally breaking through the gray… Isn’t that much like our life has been? Where can…continue reading →
A Reminder – You Are Not Alone

A Reminder – You Are Not Alone

It's been quiet here lately. I've felt stuck, creativity a distant memory. Life has happened; some days coming at me at 100 mph, and other days, still as a hot summer's afternoon. Days spent sitting on the front porch, walking in the park, taking the time to be mindful. Trying to notice the God-moments in the ordinary. It's been good to disconnect a little, taking a step back to simply observe. One thing that hasn't changed is that life goes on, with all of the beautiful and terrible things. This post is from several…continue reading →
You are Loved

You are Loved

**** To the woman who has lost your mother, you are loved. To the woman who has a strained relationship with your mother, you are loved. To the woman who has cut ties with her mother, you are loved. To the woman who has lost a child, you are loved. To the woman who has a strained relationship with a child, you are loved. To the woman who is a single mother, you are loved. To the woman who feels unappreciated as a mother, you are loved. To the woman struggling with infertility,…continue reading →
“Defenders of Life” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Does

“Defenders of Life” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Does

"For the first time in a long time, America has an administration that's filled from top to bottom with defenders of life." **** In light of the GOP healthcare plan that has just passed in Congress, this quote from Vice President Pence is the epitome of hypocrisy. As the party that has touted themselves as the pro-life party, and likely won the election due to that stance, this truly is laughable. The sanctity of life appears to only matter before birth. With this current healthcare bill, protections for pre-existing conditions, mental health, maternity…continue reading →
I Am My Sister

I Am My Sister

“I am not my sister’s keeper, I am my sister.” Iyanla Vanzant Shackle          a pair of fetters connected together by a chain, used     to fasten a prisoner’s wrists or ankles together          synonyms: restraints, constraints, impediments, hindrances, obstacles, barriers, obstructions **** Shackles can be literal, made from metal and rope. Those used to bind young girls and women sold into slavery. For sex. Shackles can be societal, the stigma of our upbringing, or social standing. The amount of money we have or don't, the cars…continue reading →
Courage to Love

Courage to Love

  Love stories aren't always easy. Real love isn't a fairy tale. It is certainly beautiful, but it's also hard and holy work. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, inevitably you will be hurt. But love is always worth the risk. Always. We are created to love and be loved; each having a deep longing to be fully known and accepted. Take the risk. Don't hold back. Love your children, your friends, your significant others, all fully and with abandon. Today is difficult for a lot of us. This is true for as many reasons…continue reading →